Being out of touch with your own needs does not tend to occur instantaneously. It is compounded by routines, such as people-pleasing, the busyness, the unwillingness to confront or the unwillingness to place oneself first. As time goes by you can get accustomed to operating and somehow feeling unconnected within. You may have duties, appear on behalf of others, and make life go, but you wonder why you are weary, hasty or self-centered. This distortion may complicate the process of perception of your feelings, limitations, and needs. Once you spot these patterns, then you can start listening again to yourself and start to respond to yourself more carefully and sincerely.
You Find It Hard to Answer What you Wish
As soon as one enquires about what you like, you are at a loss. Even basic decisions, such as food, films, or plans for the weekend, are strangely tense. You are accustomed to fitting into others and therefore your desires seem far or vague.
You Say You Will Be Fine Automatic
Even when under stress or in a sad mood, I will say that I am fine as the reflex. You react without even looking at how you really feel. The habit shields you against awkward dialogues, but it also prevents the form of emotional awareness.
You Feel Tired in a Deeper Way
Energy is used quietly by emotional suppression, constant adaptation and deficiency of personal space. The exhaustion accumulates gradually since you do not take time to check if you feel tired.
You Ignore Physical Signals
Hunger, headaches or tight shoulders or the compulsion to rest are pushed aside. You toil despite the pain not realizing how many times your body demands your focus. In the long run, this tendency undermines the sense of body.
You Feel Guilty for Resting
Resting may lead to thoughts of being productive rather. Satisfaction is a reward that is attained after satisfying the unending requirements. This guilt is not more restorative but uncomfortable. When you are wrong about the downtime, you lose opportunities to rest.
You Change Depending on Who You Are with
Depending on the people that surround you, your opinions, humor or energy change. Although flexibility is a good thing, one might be confused as to who he or she is when he is alone due to continuous shifting.
Emotions Construct and Overspill
In most cases, you hardly form feelings. Instead, they pile up quietly. Then there comes a small trigger that tears, breaks anger or closes, which appears larger than the moment. This occurs when emotions are not dealt with at an early stage.
Judgments are Intimidating
Even minor decisions are weighty due to the lack of an inside point of reference. Having no clear concept of tastes, any choice seems to be as uncertain. You can postpone a decision or overdepend on other people to make decisions.
You are Lost Without ever Knowing Why
Everything seems fine on the surface but you have the silent feeling that something is not there. It is not dramatic emptiness, merely monotonous and dull. It is frequently the result of experiencing life in a state of autopilot, conforming to the expectations, disregarding inner experiences.
